" If your relationship with yourself is pure love, your relationship with everything else will be pure love too." RLM
Absolutely everything that we experience externally is based on the awareness we have to our internal world, and more specifically our relationship with our self.
Every moment of everyday we are reacting to our life, which, as we get older seems to become more and more challenging, stressful and unhappy. But it doesn't have to be!!! It can become more relaxed, fun, peaceful and happy.
If we take an honest look into our own inner worlds. Look without judgement, but as an observer to what is, we will notice that the chaos we are living outside is a reflection of the chaos we are living inside of our souls.
Honesty is a very, very important value to adopt for ourselves in order to attain freedom and peace within. I personally don't think that we know the true meaning of adopting honesty in all aspects of our lives and most specifically with ourselves.
Nothing can change or shift when we are in denial and if we are not willing to acknowledge that we treat ourselves like shit, we are going to stay stuck in the shit storm of our life. Being in denial, is lying to our self. It is absolute dishonesty when you don't want to acknowledge your own souls needs.
A basic question which I always want someone to ask them self is, "Are you happy with your life?"
When you answer be honest!! Do you enjoy your body, your work, your relationships, your responsibilities, your material circumstances?
Do you know what makes you happy, but avoid doing any of it because you are too busy surviving from your day to day activities, which hold no joy for you.
Are you either on autopilot and just do what you have to do without thought, but also without joy. Or you are resisting the life you have by finding endless misery in the circumstances you are experiencing.
In order for us to thrive as human beings we need to feel loved, valued and appreciated.
In order for us to shrivel and die inside we need to be ignored and made to feel insignificant by having our needs over looked and feel like we have no one who cares about us.
If you look at what we need to thrive and what kills us, can you honestly say that you love, appreciate and value yourself? Or do you overlook your needs, thereby making yourself insignificant and showing that you don't care about yourself?
So then answer this...What is your relationship with yourself?
If you start to take care of your self on a soul level, acknowledge and fulfill your needs, value yourself, appreciate yourself and care very, very deeply about your soul, you will start to transform.
You will transmute all lack of love, appreciation and value to abundant love, appreciation and value. If you love, appreciate and value yourself, you will love, appreciate and value all that life has to offer. You will love, appreciate and value other people.
Transmuting the lack of love to an abundance of love will open up the well of compassion you have inside of yourself, for yourself and others.
So simple. Love yourself. Respect yourself. Do what makes you happy. Appreciate yourself. Value yourself. Be compassionate to yourself.
Every box that you feel is not being ticked inside of yourself because of an external lack, such as feeling invisible and insignificant, is only an indication that you need to love the heck out of YOURSELF.
When we relate to ourselves with love and gentleness and compassion and appreciation, it transforms our outer world to one of enormous peace and joy, because we are fulfilled.
We are truly fulfilled when we love ourselves. When you love yourself you have no need for anyone or anything to make you happy, because you are the one who makes you happy.
When you love yourself, you place your happiness in your own hands. When you love yourself you are completely in your personal power, you are an unshakable, grounded, solid being.
Being all of the above, you will only attract the things into your life which honor the sacred relationship that you have with yourself and therefore your external world we be as beautiful as the love you emanate from your soul.
With so much love