Tuesday, 25 October 2016

HAPPINESS - WHAT IS YOUR GAUGE, HOW DO YOU MEASURE IT?

" Happiness is a very personal, individual thing, and it is your responsibility to find out what that is for you and not give up till you achieve it." - RLM

If I am asked what do I want from life my answer is always this..." I want to be happy". But what does being happy really mean? Being happy is every persons God given right, yet it is something that eludes us a lot of the time. We are always happy when....when we get the dream house, when we get the dream job, when we get the dream car, when we get the dream partner, when we get the dream holiday or when we retire or when we have more money....when when when.....What about being happy now in this moment, no matter what that moment is, with no judgement, just acceptance.

Happiness for me is living without resistance. Having inner peace, feeling joy and loving life no matter what is happening around me, even if life is throwing lemons, I accept the sadness or upset and love it the same way I would joy in my heart and laughter. A real Zen ideal. It looks good in my minds eye and feels good in my heart, but it is constant practice, because it goes against everything that I was taught growing up. What I want from life has not changed for many, many years, but how I understand happiness has changed. The goal is still the same but how I achieve the goal has changed.

For me personally, happiness can only be achieved through personal growth, soul healing and self love, and in conjunction with practicing non judgement and non resistance. I didn't always see it that way, I used to believe that happiness was having my dream partner and having true love, someone to share my life with, and inner peace. My old formula for happiness put my happiness into someone elses hands and outside of myself, I was not taking responsibility for myself and that formula became a long road of good, hard life lessons, which got me to my new understanding. I certainly have no regrets, because I got an enormous amount of value from my previous understanding, but my formula has changed through that experience.

My gauge for happiness has changed through the years, and I think it will continue to change as I learn and grow and keep experiencing this human life. One thing I can say is if I look back on my life I can see how far I have come and that I am happier with every day that passes, and if I measure my happiness based on that then I am extremely proud and content with my progress towards my goal.

What makes you happy? Are you happy when or are you happy now in this beautiful moment? I would so love to hear what happiness means to you and is it a goal for you in your life to be happy? I look forward to hearing your thoughts, you can leave a comment below or email me at rosemariemoodley@gmail.com

With so much love
Rosemarie
xxxx
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Monday, 17 October 2016

SOUL HEALING

"Heal the soul first, then healing the mind and body will follow."

I have recently learnt that I have been living my life from a head space and not been paying much attention to my heart, or more accurately my soul. I have realised that I have been living with the judge in my head being my boss and ruling the way I feel and what motivates me to do things and therefore been rejecting my souls needs. This awakening came about because of this post I saw on instagram...


This quote struck such a deep cord in me, it was not so much the tiredness part of the quote as apposed to me realising that I am overlooking my soul. So my mission has become to get out of my head and into my heart. I can honestly say I feel like a new improved version of myself since I have been researching soul healing, and experimenting doing soul healings with my energy healing work. I have had such a deep profound shift, I feel like I am honoring myself for the first time. I feel like my life's movie has changed and the theater I am watching it from. 

The most important part of this understanding has been the process I am undergoing which I will share some of in a bit. I have found interesting websites, and I have noticed that the advice from them is that we should meditate, focus on a higher power and contribute of yourself into the world, not necessarily by volunteering your time, but by being mindful and kind to everyone . All beautiful advice and certainly should be heeded to. I feel that there is more to it for me, and this is what I am discovering....

Every "negative" emotion I have is actually my soul trying to tell me something. It is telling me that I am not honoring it or paying attention to my needs. I realised that if I want to be truly happy then I better do things that make me really happy. I need to have more fun and not beat myself up for it. I have learnt that I have put an enormous amount of pressure on myself to conduct my life in a specific way and when I am not seeing results I have been mentally beating myself up. How do you change that? I have found that all I need to do is listen to my soul. I ask, am I happy, is this making me happy, do I feel good about what I am doing. Then I cut myself some slack and relax, if I am anxious about something, instead of resisting it, I am compassionate to it, and I nurture myself because of it rather than judge myself and try and shake it. That anxiety is a message from my soul and now I listen.

I am loving those emotions that I normally try so hard to shake, because they are my soul talking to me! And the more I listen the better I feel. I must admit, I cry more now than I ever even thought was possible. I feel my pain and honor it, rather than bury it and hide it and it is without doubt more rewarding than I ever thought possible. I feel so much lighter and softer, and just that much more happy. I find anger and irritability are masks of my pain and now that I am feeling my pain I don't have need for the masks.

I am valuing my time with my children more than I ever have before, I am often shedding tears of joy because of the enormous gratitude I feel to have them. I am valuing the time I spend with friends and loving socializing and meeting new friends. I am feeling a deep need to be around people and connect with them on a deep, authentic, meaningful level. I am feeling such a sense of belonging on this planet, I really am becoming a whole new version of myself. Honoring my soul is making living peaceful. The war in my mind has stopped. 

I do know that not everybody has the intense desire to drop their baggage like I do. I don't meet many people who share my obsession. But I do know that everybody wants to be happy, and to be truly happy we all have to honor our souls and heal them so that life on earth is only seen and felt as a gift and a blessing and a massive joy.

I would be so honored to help you with your journey of soul healing. You can leave a comment below, or email me rosemariemoodley@gmail.com 

With so much love
Rosemarie
xxxx



Monday, 10 October 2016

GRATITUDE - THE BEST ATTITUDE TO HAVE

"It is not happy people who are thankful. It is thankful people who are happy."

Gratitude is seriously the most powerful tool we can use to raise our vibration and get our selves out of a negative rut. By practicing gratitude we are shifting our attention from the negative to the positive, we are focusing on the things that make us happy and appreciating the life that we have been given. Ten simple gratitude statements a day can shift the entire course of your day, week, month, year or even your life. It is up to you how much time you choose to practice it for and therefore the length of the impact it will have on you and your life.

The first time I learnt about practicing gratitude I was going through a seriously hard time. I had just found out that my husband had been cheating on me again, I was in a foreign country with my three little children and had no support and I was feeling pretty sorry for myself. Someone gave me a book to read called 'The Magic' - by Rhonda Byrne, and I started following the instructions in the book. My attitude did a huge turnaround, and I found that I was far more accepting of what was happening in my life rather than fighting it with every ounce of my being. I found that the momentum two weeks of daily gratitude created was astonishing. I still felt positive months after I had stopped, I had adopted a saying "it is what it is" and it really pulled me through a very dark time. I continued to practice gratitude in my life on and off over the years and I found that when I stopped I was more negative and life felt more intense. Now I practice gratitude almost daily, I have made it a rule in my life, rather than an exception. 

We live a privileged life, no matter what the emotional state of our being is. We have good food to eat, a warm bed to sleep in, our health, we have children and friends, a roof over our heads, eyes that can see the beauty of this planet. Most of us have a job and a car and techno gadgets. We have running water and hot water to shower with. We can read and write and can afford to give the same gift to our children. We are so so blessed and have so much to be thankful for, we just need to focus on it. 

I challenge you to write down ten things that you are grateful for every morning when you wake up for a week and see how good you feel. 

What are you most grateful for in your life? Are you having a hard time finding ten things to be grateful for? Please leave comments below, I would love to hear from you.

With so much love 
Rosemarie
xxx