Monday, 28 November 2016

LIVING AUTHENTICALLY

"Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who you think you are supposed to be and embracing who you are" - BRENE BROWN

When I am living authentically I feel it. It is that feeling which gives me a knowing, and that knowing is a peace and calm inside me, like I am being honored and I belong. It is a feeling of love and having so much to give, I feel purpose and meaning. I feel it and I live it. In those moments there is no mind chatter or self judgement, it is just a way of being. That is me being real. Living from my heart and soul. There is not a mean bone in my body, I am all about love, for myself and others. Being authentic for me doesn't mean that there is no pain, because we are human and with being human comes a whole array of emotions. It means that the pain is honored and you have a knowing that everything that is happening is for your greater good, just something you need to pass through. For me it has a lot to do with trusting the process and being in the moment without judgement. Non judgement of yourself, others and circumstances.

Authenticity is something that I feel and I know. It is not a head space for me, it is a total and complete heart space. When I hear the words 'living authentically' my mind goes blank and I feel, and this excites me so much because of the level of honesty I feel it ignites in me. Its like my soul kicks in and shows me what it is. Not everybody is as lucky as I am to be given the understanding with the feeling and knowing to back it up, so my hope is that humble words will ignite the knowing in you so that you to can experience the truth of who and what you are and live it even if just for a moment. 

I know that our authentic selves are love, divine never ending out pouring love. When living authentically we are not small, we are not run by fear, we know that we have a well of love so deep and so full that abundance flows from us as well as through us. Love is our authentic state of being. We can be vulnerable without fear and give without expectation. The truth of who we are just needs to be listened to. I know that if we all started living authentically we would all be kinder, gentler, more compassionate and supportive of one another because we would not be afraid to give of ourselves anymore. We would know our source is abundant and therefore selfishness would dissappear.

Imagine a world where we all lived in our authentic state of love, it would be heaven on earth...but alas, we are human on earth and still have to cut through so much of our ego's bullshit before we can allow ourselves the gift of being permanently authentic. Life is one crazy ride! But try connect with your real self every once in a while so that you to can have blissful moments of freedom from within.  

"Authentic freedom is the power to do what we ought to do, the power to choose the good, the true, and the beautiful. That will vanquish fear every time." - John Corapi

With so much love
Rosemarie
xxxx

Wednesday, 2 November 2016

SELF LOVE

"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserves your love and affection" - BUDDHA


In our society we are taught that loving ourselves is vain and selfish. Therefore we reject any idea to do with loving ourselves because we do not want to be seen as vain, arrogant or selfish. I think that we have totally missed the mark of what self love is, and so are doing ourselves enormous amounts of damage by not loving ourselves in the pure, non vain, non selfish way, and this is how I think we can fix that damage, and become whole, happier people.

Values, morals and principles maketh the man. These are the core traits that make someone truly beautiful. These are the things that make you love another person and therefore these are the things that ultimately should make you love yourself. If you live your talk and live by your morals, values and principles, and you like the ones that you represent and that represent you, how can you do anything but love yourself for the person you are at a soul level? If you don't feel that you do love what you represent, then change what you represent and love yourself for the courage you have to see your flaws and be willing to change them. Be the person you dream to be. Being human is the most amazing gift and our ability to create the life of our dreams through our attitude and perspective is such a powerful tool. We ALL posses that, and that is certainly something to love and be proud of.

As we are not only made up of light, but both the light and the darkness, we have to learn to love and embrace our darkness to. In accepting the dark, we can allow the light to shine brighter. We have all made mistakes, but it is those mistakes which have taught us and molded us into who we are today, so how can we not love them. The same goes for hard experiences that we have had in our lives. They have shaped us, and continue to shape us and teach us. 

Forgive and be free to love. 

Each one of us is a miracle. We all have the same miracle within us that has created all life in the universe. When I think of that, it makes me tear up at the thought of how phenomenal each and every one of us are!  

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." - RUMI 

With so much love
Rosemarie
xxxx

Tuesday, 25 October 2016

HAPPINESS - WHAT IS YOUR GAUGE, HOW DO YOU MEASURE IT?

" Happiness is a very personal, individual thing, and it is your responsibility to find out what that is for you and not give up till you achieve it." - RLM

If I am asked what do I want from life my answer is always this..." I want to be happy". But what does being happy really mean? Being happy is every persons God given right, yet it is something that eludes us a lot of the time. We are always happy when....when we get the dream house, when we get the dream job, when we get the dream car, when we get the dream partner, when we get the dream holiday or when we retire or when we have more money....when when when.....What about being happy now in this moment, no matter what that moment is, with no judgement, just acceptance.

Happiness for me is living without resistance. Having inner peace, feeling joy and loving life no matter what is happening around me, even if life is throwing lemons, I accept the sadness or upset and love it the same way I would joy in my heart and laughter. A real Zen ideal. It looks good in my minds eye and feels good in my heart, but it is constant practice, because it goes against everything that I was taught growing up. What I want from life has not changed for many, many years, but how I understand happiness has changed. The goal is still the same but how I achieve the goal has changed.

For me personally, happiness can only be achieved through personal growth, soul healing and self love, and in conjunction with practicing non judgement and non resistance. I didn't always see it that way, I used to believe that happiness was having my dream partner and having true love, someone to share my life with, and inner peace. My old formula for happiness put my happiness into someone elses hands and outside of myself, I was not taking responsibility for myself and that formula became a long road of good, hard life lessons, which got me to my new understanding. I certainly have no regrets, because I got an enormous amount of value from my previous understanding, but my formula has changed through that experience.

My gauge for happiness has changed through the years, and I think it will continue to change as I learn and grow and keep experiencing this human life. One thing I can say is if I look back on my life I can see how far I have come and that I am happier with every day that passes, and if I measure my happiness based on that then I am extremely proud and content with my progress towards my goal.

What makes you happy? Are you happy when or are you happy now in this beautiful moment? I would so love to hear what happiness means to you and is it a goal for you in your life to be happy? I look forward to hearing your thoughts, you can leave a comment below or email me at rosemariemoodley@gmail.com

With so much love
Rosemarie
xxxx
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Monday, 17 October 2016

SOUL HEALING

"Heal the soul first, then healing the mind and body will follow."

I have recently learnt that I have been living my life from a head space and not been paying much attention to my heart, or more accurately my soul. I have realised that I have been living with the judge in my head being my boss and ruling the way I feel and what motivates me to do things and therefore been rejecting my souls needs. This awakening came about because of this post I saw on instagram...


This quote struck such a deep cord in me, it was not so much the tiredness part of the quote as apposed to me realising that I am overlooking my soul. So my mission has become to get out of my head and into my heart. I can honestly say I feel like a new improved version of myself since I have been researching soul healing, and experimenting doing soul healings with my energy healing work. I have had such a deep profound shift, I feel like I am honoring myself for the first time. I feel like my life's movie has changed and the theater I am watching it from. 

The most important part of this understanding has been the process I am undergoing which I will share some of in a bit. I have found interesting websites, and I have noticed that the advice from them is that we should meditate, focus on a higher power and contribute of yourself into the world, not necessarily by volunteering your time, but by being mindful and kind to everyone . All beautiful advice and certainly should be heeded to. I feel that there is more to it for me, and this is what I am discovering....

Every "negative" emotion I have is actually my soul trying to tell me something. It is telling me that I am not honoring it or paying attention to my needs. I realised that if I want to be truly happy then I better do things that make me really happy. I need to have more fun and not beat myself up for it. I have learnt that I have put an enormous amount of pressure on myself to conduct my life in a specific way and when I am not seeing results I have been mentally beating myself up. How do you change that? I have found that all I need to do is listen to my soul. I ask, am I happy, is this making me happy, do I feel good about what I am doing. Then I cut myself some slack and relax, if I am anxious about something, instead of resisting it, I am compassionate to it, and I nurture myself because of it rather than judge myself and try and shake it. That anxiety is a message from my soul and now I listen.

I am loving those emotions that I normally try so hard to shake, because they are my soul talking to me! And the more I listen the better I feel. I must admit, I cry more now than I ever even thought was possible. I feel my pain and honor it, rather than bury it and hide it and it is without doubt more rewarding than I ever thought possible. I feel so much lighter and softer, and just that much more happy. I find anger and irritability are masks of my pain and now that I am feeling my pain I don't have need for the masks.

I am valuing my time with my children more than I ever have before, I am often shedding tears of joy because of the enormous gratitude I feel to have them. I am valuing the time I spend with friends and loving socializing and meeting new friends. I am feeling a deep need to be around people and connect with them on a deep, authentic, meaningful level. I am feeling such a sense of belonging on this planet, I really am becoming a whole new version of myself. Honoring my soul is making living peaceful. The war in my mind has stopped. 

I do know that not everybody has the intense desire to drop their baggage like I do. I don't meet many people who share my obsession. But I do know that everybody wants to be happy, and to be truly happy we all have to honor our souls and heal them so that life on earth is only seen and felt as a gift and a blessing and a massive joy.

I would be so honored to help you with your journey of soul healing. You can leave a comment below, or email me rosemariemoodley@gmail.com 

With so much love
Rosemarie
xxxx



Monday, 10 October 2016

GRATITUDE - THE BEST ATTITUDE TO HAVE

"It is not happy people who are thankful. It is thankful people who are happy."

Gratitude is seriously the most powerful tool we can use to raise our vibration and get our selves out of a negative rut. By practicing gratitude we are shifting our attention from the negative to the positive, we are focusing on the things that make us happy and appreciating the life that we have been given. Ten simple gratitude statements a day can shift the entire course of your day, week, month, year or even your life. It is up to you how much time you choose to practice it for and therefore the length of the impact it will have on you and your life.

The first time I learnt about practicing gratitude I was going through a seriously hard time. I had just found out that my husband had been cheating on me again, I was in a foreign country with my three little children and had no support and I was feeling pretty sorry for myself. Someone gave me a book to read called 'The Magic' - by Rhonda Byrne, and I started following the instructions in the book. My attitude did a huge turnaround, and I found that I was far more accepting of what was happening in my life rather than fighting it with every ounce of my being. I found that the momentum two weeks of daily gratitude created was astonishing. I still felt positive months after I had stopped, I had adopted a saying "it is what it is" and it really pulled me through a very dark time. I continued to practice gratitude in my life on and off over the years and I found that when I stopped I was more negative and life felt more intense. Now I practice gratitude almost daily, I have made it a rule in my life, rather than an exception. 

We live a privileged life, no matter what the emotional state of our being is. We have good food to eat, a warm bed to sleep in, our health, we have children and friends, a roof over our heads, eyes that can see the beauty of this planet. Most of us have a job and a car and techno gadgets. We have running water and hot water to shower with. We can read and write and can afford to give the same gift to our children. We are so so blessed and have so much to be thankful for, we just need to focus on it. 

I challenge you to write down ten things that you are grateful for every morning when you wake up for a week and see how good you feel. 

What are you most grateful for in your life? Are you having a hard time finding ten things to be grateful for? Please leave comments below, I would love to hear from you.

With so much love 
Rosemarie
xxx

Sunday, 18 September 2016

REJECTION - WHAT IS ITS EFFECT ON THE HUMAN SPIRIT AND HOW DO YOU HEAL FROM IT?

"Rejection is a part of life. Just learn to deal with it and keep moving."

Rejection is something that we all face all the time in so many different ways, but I want to talk about rejection on a very personal level, rejection within your inner circle with your family and lovers.

Rejection is a life pattern for me which started the moment my mother found out that she was pregnant with me. I was not wanted, and the thought of me was shock, horror and burden. This carried on through out my up bringing and filtered through to the rest of my family. I was severely bullied and abused by my siblings and my mother never really warmed up to me. My father was not really interested in anyone but himself and that never really changed through out my life. This was my paradigm, I was the last born and no one in my immediate family bonded with me. When I was 13 I overheard my mom talking to friends one night and she told them that she didn't love me, that she would never love me, that she never wanted me and that I should never have been born. So there was the nail in the coffin to set the paradigm for a very fucked up rest of my life when it comes to love and acceptance because I only knew how not to be loved and wanted, and I had no idea how to really bond with people.

This rejection pattern and paradigm has filtered through my life into all of my personal relationships, I have only been attracted to men who will reject me. The compass for love was totally cock eyed, so it could not lead me to a love of mutual respect and adoration, I could only be led to relationships where I do the adoring and they do the stuff that my family did, treat me like shit.

Rejection has the same effect on us as physical pain does, it sets off exactly the same brain chemicals. Rejection has a whole lot of interesting effects on us when we are experiencing it. It lowers our IQ, it makes us lose our reasoning, we can relive the exact same reaction we had to rejection, just by thinking about it. Rejection destabilizes our sense of belonging, (and this can be massively damaging because we are social creatures). If you would like to read more about interesting facts on rejection check out psychologytoday .

What effects does rejection have on the human spirit? It destroys self confidence and morale. It sends us in a cycle of self punishment and negative self talk because we tend to blame ourselves. That is a pretty serious effect I would say! If we manifest our reality, it will be pretty hard if not impossible to manifest positive decision making, we will be keeping ourselves small and in pain. I definitely notice this in myself. I have moments when I am flying and life just couldn't be better, but then something happens to me, revolving around my rejection pattern and I lose reason and all positivity, and getting myself back into the saddle is serious hard work. Based on my history this is understandable, but for the person I choose to be and life I choose to live, it is not conducive at all, in fact it is very damaging, because it doesn't allow me to move forward in one constant direction, I tend to give my self whiplash from moving fast in my happy direction and then start running in the opposite direction with a personal rejection. Being on track for me is a HUGE amount of effort, because the early paradigm tends to get in the way of normality.

I handle lifes normal rejections in a healthy don't take it personally kind of way, BUT the rejections of not being accepted and loved is a very serious thing for me and something I work on and battle with each and every time it pops up. I don't believe in desensitizing myself to things and losing my vulnerability, because that is going backwards in life in my mind. I believe in facing this thing head on and keep facing it over and over and over and over again until I heal from the enormous pain I experienced as a child. The big question is how do you heal from this, I mean truly heal?

I think healing from something this deep set is a challenge, but DEFINITELY doable, I am an eternal optimist and no matter what shit sandwich I get dealt in life I ALWAYS believe that it can get better. So with that said, what is the starting point? 


  • I think self awareness is the first piece needed to solving this puzzle, because if you can stand on the outside watching your own reaction and know where it is coming from and why, with a bit of practice you can change the reaction. BUT you need to be compassionate with yourself, and gentle on yourself to make the change. 
  • You need to raise your standards, if someone is being a dick and not giving you as much as you are giving them, walk away, (no matter how hard it feels at the time) make choices based on what is truly best for you not out of desperation to be loved and accepted. When the rejection response is on alert in me I can see that I believe that I am the one losing out! A lying, cheating man seems like a loss to me! A total loss of reason is what it actually is. I deserve so much better, yet I can't see that at the time.
  • Find a support system! This is a VERY difficult thing for me to do. I never feel like I belong anywhere or with anyone, so I battle to pick up the phone and call a friend when I am going through a hard time, (even one that I have had since I was five.) I don't have family support, so I just tend to deal with things on my own. I mark myself a zero out of ten on this healing tool and it is one that I need to start getting at least a five out of ten for. Meet up is an excellent way to meet new, like minded people and find a new sense of belonging, there are hundreds, if not thousands of groups to choose from, or you can start your own group.   
  • Energy healing, this is an unbelievable tool for healing any area of your life. If you have the awareness of what is wrong and what you want to work on, you can move mountains with this tool, because it can remove the emotional baggage that causes you to attract the same patterns into your life. I use this ALL the time and I don't think I would have come as far in life without it.
  • Counselling or psychotherapy is also an excellent way to get to know yourself better, it creates self awareness and helps us find solutions to trouble shooting areas we have in our lives.
I think that is a very good start to dealing with deep seated rejection, and if you can follow through with the suggestions is could be a long term solution to your healing to. I can say that there is no quick fix and that there is no magic pill for this, but there is a journey of self discovery and self love. This is an on going journey for me, sometimes it is really hard and it feels so lonely, like I am the only person alive who has no one. But other times I feel strong and happy to be me, and all of my life is a gift just because I am alive. 

I choose not to fold to the rejection, I choose to feel my pain and love myself even if every other human being on the planet doesn't want me, because I want me. I want to be happy just like everybody else. That happiness for me is not constant joy, it is the journey of my life, the choice to never give up on myself and to keep moving forward no matter how hard that is.

We are all here to overcome different life challenges, my main one is definitely rejection. What is yours? Do you also have a pattern of rejection in your life? Please leave a comment below, I would love to help you.

With much love
Rosemarie
xxx



Wednesday, 7 September 2016

HOW DO YOU PUSH THROUGH THE HARD TIMES?

"Nothing is really bad. It is either a good moment or a good lesson." 

I love this quote because I believe it is true. BUT it is so hard to grasp it when you are going through the lesson learning time. Life is about opposites and we apparently don't grow very much when it is all sunshine and moonbeams. Strength of character is when you push through the hard times and don't give up on yourself ever. The bigger the lesson the harder the time you go through, if this is the case then I am to assume that I am going to die an enlightened master. So best I be thankful and wear my pain and frustration well.

This is all well and good to say, but it feels like hell when you are living it, and it is in the living it where we need to understand it and make sense of it. Being human is no easy thing, it is about learning to enjoy the agony and the ecstasy. Yup, the agony to. We are not all created the same and we all have different lives and different interpretations of the experiences we live. I for one am a person who wants to learn and grow and be the best I can be, so life dishes me what I need to experience in order to learn and grow. If I don't learn then life keeps handing out the lesson until I get it, this is the pattern of my life so far. When I get through to the other side of a shit storm I have wonderful aha moments and the heavens open up with a choir of angels singing for my moment of enlightenment. So by thinking and knowing that, it gets me through to the other side in one piece, if I can remember to think it!

The lessons I am being thrown at the moment is that life is busy and things get in the way of my plans all the time and I have to learn to roll with it and not give up. I thought that I was going to be married for ever, that changed, I have had to learn to roll with it. I certainly didn't think that I would be homeschooling my three youngest kids, but now I am, and I am learning to roll with it. All of my time and focus has moved to the most important job in the world, educating my kids. My measure of success has had to change from one day to the next, and I have to learn to be ok with that. My focus has been forced to shift based on the needs of this specific moment, it is when I fight it that I suffer. Is all my suffering based on the non acceptance of what is? It seems to me that it is. I become a victim to circumstance the second I don't want what I am living. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that I don't want to be teaching my kids, what I am saying is that I had another plan for myself and this new plan has just flung itself at me and I have to adapt to it.That is when I struggle with my reality,its the adapting part. Now that is a good reminder to push me through to the light at the end of the tunnel, stop fighting what is and accept it!

How do you help yourself push through the hard times and challenges that life throws at you? I would love to hear from you or help you if you have something that you are stuck with.

With so much love
Rosemarie
xxx

Friday, 26 August 2016

PERSONAL RESPONSIBILTY

"It's always easy to blame others. You can spend your entire life blaming the world, but your successes and failures are entirely your own responsibility." - Paulo Coelho

Personal responsibility in my mind, is the most important thing to own in order to grow, forgive and live an abundantly happy life. We are so busy blaming our past, our childhood, our lack of education, our financial situation, or whatever excuse we have made up in our minds to stay stuck and miserable.

We dis empower ourselves the moment we believe the lie that our circumstances dictate our happiness. Happiness really is a choice, it is an inside job and it is far to important to assign it to someone or something else.

I think that we are at a point on this planet where we are needing drastic change in our personal development. We have not been taught in our society that there is no quick fix, no magic pill and no magic wand that is going to fix our life, so that is what we are all looking for! We are becoming lazier, fatter, more unhealthy physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. We are moving forward so fast technologically and we are leaving the heart and the soul behind. 

I say enough!!!! 

A simple shift in attitude, a simple shift from victim mode is what we need to get back into our personal power.  We have the power to do ANYTHING and change EVERYTHING through accepting personal responsibility for how we live our lives. 

I find it almost comical that as a solution to our own unhappiness we would rather go to a doctor to prescribe a pill to make us happier rather than dig into our heart and find the reason why we are unhappy in the first place. When did we become so powerless to help ourselves?  When did we start settling for misery and struggle as the norm? 

Everything that is wrong in our lives today is because of ourselves. (I am not talking about children here, they still need someone else to take responsibility for them.) 

I am the responsibility queen, in every shitty circumstance of my life I can see where I am responsible, I am never a victim anymore because I know that the only thing that gives somebody the right to abuse me is me! My happiness and success is in my hands. I forgive anybody who has 'wronged' me because it frees me. I take daily action to look after my body, mind and spirit. I choose how I react to any situation. I choose who I am at my core in every moment. I stand firm on my values and principles. All of this leads to daily freedom and happiness, even if it is a shitty day, because I am in the drivers seat of my life!

You deserve the same! You can do the same! You have all the power within you to be happy and free.  Take your power back and claim personal responsibility for your life! 

To every problem there is a solution, which means there are only solutions!!

Is there something that you are feeling stuck with and can't see how you can take personal responsibility for this? If so please leave a comment below and I would love to help you find your solution. Your comment may help somebody else because sharing really is caring.

With so much love
Rosemarie
xxx




Thursday, 18 August 2016

IRON DEFICIENCY

"Take care of your body, it's the only place you have to live in."

I have had a very interesting couple of weeks, because I have been a bit on the down side and the tiered side for no apparent reason to me.  BUT truth be told it should be VERY apparent to me because I do get low iron, rather often and rather horribly, but I seem to have this weird mental block to keeping it under control and of course be aware when I am not so that I can quickly rectify it. But time and time again it nails me, and it is not like it slowly creeps up on me either, it has some pretty loud warning signs that it is low, and I just don't see it until it is so far gone that it takes a week (if I am lucky) or more (anything up to a month) to get myself back to normal.  It is like I am in denial that I have anything wrong with me.

I am going to tell you the warning signs, because so many of us suffer from this and are totally oblivious that we do. People who should particularly take heed are vegans and vegetarians, or selectatarians such as myself.  I eat red meat, but only for iron, and I forget to eat it, so I get low iron, then I eat meat and feel better and then forget to eat meat, so I get low iron and so it goes with me and has been like this for more than 6 years, since I gave birth to my twins.

Here are my warning signs...

  • Tiredness and fatigue - I feel like I need an afternoon nap and fall asleep really early at night.  I wake up and think of coffee, (and I don't drink coffee every day)
  • Shortness of breath after walking five steps and loss of strength - I feel my heart in my throat walking to my car or up a couple of stairs (I am quite fit, so this should send alarm bells but not for me, you have to scrape me off the ground before the penny drops) I also feel so weak, I can't carry stuff because everything feels heavy and my arms and legs get sore quickly. (I am one super strong chick, so again, why don't I get it?)
  • I am irritable with everything, my PMS is in overdrive, it starts far to early and doesn't stop after my period finishes, in fact it gets worse, which means it is not PMS at all, it is low iron.
  • I get a headache the day after I start my period.
  • I get constipated.
  • I get this low lying sadness.
  • I get cold sores.
  • My concentration sucks and I am demotivated.
  • I feel vulnerable and exposed.
  • I feel anxious.
  • My shoulders feel tense.
  • I loose my appetite.
I don't experience all of these symptoms immediately and I don't always get all of them, (if I realise I have low iron before they do all appear), but the symptoms are big enough on their own to make me feel rather shitty and one would think that I would do something about it sooner so that I can be my normal, happy, cheerful self again, because that makes good sense.

Now here is the moment of truth about my avoiding fixing myself when all of these symptoms arise.....I don't like eating meat, so I forget that it is what I need to feel better, so each symptom is ignored and hence I have to scrape the bottom of the barrel before I am willing realise I need meat.

There are good vegan and vegetarian supplements out there which I could take, but they take a while to have an effect, and red meat starts having an immediate effect on my iron levels. Ideally I need to be on a supplement everyday so that I can avoid this all together, and that is just what I am going to have to do!  I will add it to my other daily supplement routine and I will feel like a million bucks everyday now, and chances are I won't have to eat meat to fix the problem! It has taken me more than 6 years to figure this out! (I really shouldn't admit that.) 

The main point of this article is to bring to attention to how we can and do self sabotage ourselves.  I am educated in nutrition, yet this happens to me.  The red flag waves and I ignore it and go down the spiral of avoidable yukness.  I bring it on myself, time and time again.  Well thankfully through writing this article I have found a solution, and I hope that I am now going to be kinder to myself and more awake to help myself out of the mess low iron creates, by just taking a simple supplement everyday and avoiding it all together!  No more self sabotaging myself with this thing anymore. 

I hope that the information in here has been useful to you. Please leave a comment below and let me know.

With much love
Rosemarie
xxx

Friday, 12 August 2016

ENERGY HEALING - How it works and how it's worked for me

"Everything is energy, your thought begins it, your emotion amplifies it and your action increases the momentum."



I am an energy healer, and I am often asked "what do you do?" So I decided it was time to dedicate a blog post to the subject to explain about what I think is one of the most wonderful tools on the planet for healing and raising our vibration. 

As the little picture above so beautifully and simply illustrates, energy healing gets rid of stuck energy and blockages. Stuck energy can be a whole lot of different things, it can be an emotion or a trauma, or a negative belief system or a consciousness.  It could be an experience, or an instance, or an archetype, or a relationship.  There is a rather extensive list, but I am sure you get the gist of it.  

These blockages can manifest as illness or disease, aches and pains, hormonal imbalance like infertility, PMS, lack of sex drive or over active sex drive, mental and emotional problems like depression, anxiety, ADD or ADHD and personality disorders, insomnia or asthma. Blockages can also manifest in a way like what we attract into our lives, such as unhealthy relationships, financial hardships, jobs we are unhappy with, lack of success and an abundance of unhappiness and poor self confidence.  The list is endless, because it can help with anything if the depth of intention is there for healing. 

So my job, or the job of a healer, is to find out what the stuck energy is and where it is in the client, and then to clear it out.  

The ways of getting this information is muscle testing, which every single person can learn how to do.  Another is learning to use your intuition, which is also something that everybody can do, but not everybody has the belief in themselves or the inclination to learn how.  Some people can see the energy, others can feel the energy and this way they know where to remove the blocks.

You do not need to be psychic to do this, or have a special gift.  I learnt how to do this because of the healing it has given to me and my children.  It helps so much with behavioral and emotional issues in kids and teens. It helps with animals too! When the opportunity arose for me to learn, I jumped in with every ounce of my being because I knew from experience what an incredible tool it would be for me have for myself, my family and friends and everyone else who I can help. I did a course called CORE REGENERATION, which gives you the basis of what you need to become a healer if your desire is strong enough.  

I personally use a combination of muscle testing and intuitive healing with my angels. I started with muscle testing only and then slowly my angels have guided me to heal as I heal now, and this method is developing and changing all the time.  I am always learning and growing with my technique.

I do most of my healings distance as this has suited my clients and it is as powerful as a hands on session, please see my REVIEWS PAGE to read  clients testimonials.

If you are interested in making an appointment for a session with me or would like details on what I charge see my CONTACT PAGE.

If you have any questions please leave a comment below, I would love to hear from you.




With much love
Rosemarie
xxx





Thursday, 4 August 2016

INSPIRED PEOPLE

"THE MORE YOU PRAISE AND CELEBRATE YOUR LIFE, THE MORE THERE IS IN LIFE TO CELEBRATE" -  Oprah Winfrey

I love watching motivational talks and interviews and books, I actively seek them out, practically everyday, even if I only have time for a five minute talk, I do it.  I mostly have my pen and paper handy and make notes of the gems I get from them.  One thing is certain when I watch or read, the more I learn, the less I know, and I love it!

I get excited every time I find a new person that I really relate to, and with every new insight I resonate with.  I love it when I re read a book with new eyes and understanding and it gives me more the second, third or fourth time I read it.  One book particularly, called 'The Mastery of love' - by Don Miguel Ruiz, I have read 9 times!  

This week I have gone on a rampage of inspiration and have been introduced to Marie TV, Marie Forleo is a life coach and beautiful soul.  She tells a story in a way that had me riveted and living the moment with her.  She is amazing, so down to earth and easy to relate to and the work she does is brilliant, check her out if you get a chance http://www.marieforleo.com/

Another suggestion that I would like to make is that you watch Anthony Robbins movie on netfix called 'Tony Robbins - I am not your Guru' this is the link to the trailor https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HUHMZf3qwsQ I found the movie to be hugely inspiring.  If you don't know who he is Tony Robbins is probably the most famous self help coach in America. A truly remarkable man. 

There is an abundance of brilliance in this world, in fact there is an abundance of brilliance in each and everyone of us, we just need to tune into it if we aren't already tuned in. Watching others who are tuned in to their brilliance, inspires us to tune into our own, creating a gorgeous chain reaction of love, light and brilliance, so go out and find someone to inspire or someone to inspire you!

Please leave me a comment, I would love to hear about what inspires you, or how you inspire others.

With much love
Rosemarie
xxx


Wednesday, 27 July 2016

LOVE, RESPECT AND OWN YOUR STORY

"OWNING OUR STORY AND LOVING OURSELVES THROUGH THAT PROCESS IS THE BRAVEST THING THAT WE WILL EVER DO." - Brene Brown 

Each one of us has a gift, each one of us has a light inside us so bright that we could light up the entire universe on our own, if we were willing to see our own beauty.  

When I look back on my life, I can so clearly see that everything that has happened to me happened for a good reason and a greater good. Every bit of abuse, every bit of bullying, every bit of neglect happened for a reason. Nothing was personal! That realisation was the game changer for me.

Now everything makes sense to me and inside of my heart I feel gratitude, understanding and inspiration because of the life I have lived and how I have overcome my challenges and problems.  I now view "problems" as lessons and I welcome the lesson, when and if a new one arises.  I have understanding, compassion and love for my shadow side, and no longer reject it.  I embrace my strengths and weaknesses and I feel deep respect for myself and love.  And I feel the same for others, because I can see their struggle because I have been there too.  It was not always like this though, it has been a long journey of self awareness and being prepared to own my story, good and bad, the whole entire package that is me.  

I used to reject myself all the time and I used to judge myself all the time, I was my own worst enemy because I was trying so hard to strive for my idea of perfection, in the hopes that I will be lovable if I could be better than I was, because who I was was only ever abused.  I was living with echoes from my upbringing telling me that it is vain and arrogant to know my own strengths and very weak to admit to my flaws. So for a long time I was defensive when my flaws reared their heads and I hid the truth of my own brilliance.  I forced myself to be below average, yet at the same time was trying to be perfect. I was a walking confused, contradiction in mountains of pain. I hated my story and I was so ashamed of the life I lived because I never seemed to be able to get it together.  I just couldn't live up the the picture I had created in my head. 

Through the striving for my idea of perfection it led me to be a person who really lives my values, and through learning and growing and maturity I started viewing my life with my own eyes and not the eyes of society and my family. I have learnt that the idea of perfection in my head is an illusion
because everything is perfect just as it is, me included.  I have learnt that when we create an idea of perfection it is always unattainable. It causes us to judge ourselves and beat up on ourselves.  We never live up to our crazy expectations, because we are always moving the goal post and get into the habit of putting emphasis on our failures, and not on the beauty inside of us.  We are always a victim to our inner judge and never move past it.

For me dropping my judge and my victim attitude was the best thing I have ever done!  It is not gone completely, because I am human.  But I can say that it doesn't dominate me and control my life anymore.  The more awareness that I have brought to it, the more it has dissolved.  It has given me the understanding of taking responsibility for absolutely every aspect of my life, even the things which appear to be out of my control, I own them, and grow from them.  I now put emphasis on the beauty inside me and the amazing woman I am and the gift I have to share with others. I have done this by embracing both my shadow and my light and having deep compassion for myself. Now I see the light inside of others, because I see that we are all apart of the same journey. I believe in the light inside every single person on this planet, because we are all one, and I am not different from anyone else.  If I can do it, so can you!  I urge you to embrace all of you, good and bad, and see what happens if you give yourself a break and love yourself rather than judge yourself. Change will not be immediate, but if you can do this, change will come, but you have to take the first step. 

With much love
Rosemarie

P.S  I am posting the blog early this week because I am going away for few days to see my most wonderful oldest Son and beautiful friends, so I would rather be early than late with the blog.

P.P.S  I would to say that I am so thankful and grateful to everyone that reads my blog, I would be over the moon if you left a comment for me to give me feedback or share your story with me.


Saturday, 23 July 2016

SET THE TONE FOR A GREAT DAY!

"One small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day."

We are all so busy trying to survive that we don't give much thought in how to live.  Life is about living though, not surviving.  Life is about expanding, being happy and experiencing joy, love and peace in every moment, no matter what that moment is.  

Being kind to ourselves and taking time for ourselves always seems to be on the bottom of the to do list.  Today I want to ask you to change that.  Try commit to giving yourself five minutes when you wake up in the morning.  Wake up and greet the day with a smile, with love and joy in your heart. Before your feet hit the ground be grateful for 5 things in your life. Feel the gratitude and thank source for the gift of your life.  By doing this simple thing you will set the tone for a great day, because you will be raising your vibration as soon as you wake up, and things can only be great from a space of higher vibration. 

I have a morning ritual which puts me in touch with source and gives me a great sense of peace and acceptance for the rest of my day, for me personally, every day is a great day because I wake up, meditate and practice gratitude.  Even if I only have five minutes, that it is all takes for me to have an amazing day, and that is all it will take for you to have an amazing day.

Take time for yourself, you are the most important person in your life and your life is a gift to enjoy, find ways to enjoy it and raise your vibration.  Play and have fun, laugh everyday, be inspired everyday.  Do something special for yourself once a week.  I am very blessed because I do a lot of swaps because of the energy healing work I do.  I do healings and then people swap their skills to pay me back for the healing. One amazing treatment that I get is called Meziere Massage, it is seriously the most relaxing most wonderful experience ever, I would highly recommend you try it or find something that you can do for yourself which will make you feel happy to be alive.

The better we feel, the more positive impact we have on those around us, it is only a win win if we love ourselves more.

Life is a gift, live it.

With much love
Rosemarie


Thursday, 14 July 2016

LIVE IN THE MOMENT

"REALISE DEEPLY THAT THIS MOMENT IS ALL YOU EVER HAVE." - Eckhart Tolle

I have had a great life lesson over the last couple of weeks, because my daily routine has been jiggled and I have had to surrender to what is rather than do what I thought needed doing.  Amazingly life has carried on and I have lost nothing, in fact I have gained wonderful moments and memories with my kids and friends and a bit more insight into myself and a deep sense of this moment....what a gift....

I have always thought of myself as a pretty laid back person, but to be honest I think that it has seemed like that on the surface because it is something I have wanted to portray, but underneath I have been a duck treading water because the feelings I have had inside have been tense and I have been judging myself all the time according to what I think I should have been doing and then I have totally been missing the moment.  

That exquisite moment when the sun feels so heavenly on my skin and the weaver birds pop into the garden to say thank you for the veggie scraps and greet me. The shiny silky feathers on the ibis looking for food on the grass, the perfect air around me connecting every single thing on this planet. Just being in my body with no thought except that I am so grateful for my life, and the humongous joy I feel and endless gratitude for my unbelievable kids and friends.  Loving the gift of life.

Every thing is as it is meant to be, every moment is perfect. No need to do what I thought I needed to be doing because when the time is right I will be doing it.

Surrender to the perfection of this moment....

I have laughed more, judged less, had fun, played, slept, enjoyed my food, kissed and hugged my kids even more than usual, and stressed less.  Bliss...

You should try it too....

With much love
Rosemarie

Sunday, 26 June 2016

VULNERABILITY


"Life can make you bitter or better, you choose" 

I am a person who thinks a lot.  I analyse everything and can't really put something to bed in my mind until I have made sense of it.  Having a hard life and being a good person because of it is something that has always puzzled me, because I must of just been born this way because it wasn't nurtured or was it?  But I am who I am now, and if I was given a choice to be anyone else in the world I would always choose me.  I would make that choice because my core is good.  I am honest, I am kind, I am caring, I am helpful, I am trustworthy.  I allow myself to be vulnerable, in spite of my past and my hardships, I still choose to be vulnerable, no matter the outcome.  Being vulnerable is what I want to talk about today.

Being vulnerable is a trait that I have learnt, it is a trait that I took on when I started on my path of personal growth 17 years ago, I realized that in order to grow I to needed be prepared to let down my guard and be vulnerable and take chances and expose myself, and love without fear.  It took years to master this and become aware of the positive role of vulnerability in my life.  It is a trait that I have that makes me feel proud of myself. I can't say that I have made wise choices with whom I choose to be vulnerable, (that gauge is in for repair), but I can say that I have thrown myself into the love that life has given me with all of my heart. 


Life is hard and life is beautiful, it depends on how you choose to view it.  Showing our vulnerability is seen as being weak in this world, it is deemed as taboo to express how we feel when the other person can reject you.  Well I have done it, in spite of  my fear and I have been richly rewarded through it.  Sure, I have been rejected, and I have not been loved the same way in return, BUT I have loved!  I have felt the ecstasy of ground breaking love.  I have been rewarded with the most wonderful children on the planet.  I have been rewarded with inspiration to help others to overcome their pain.  I have been rewarded with life lessons that have made me stronger and wiser and kinder.  And I would do it again, because this is why we are here on planet earth.  We are here to love and feel loved!


I am talking mostly about love here, but the truth is, being vulnerable means that you will try anything that the outcome is not pre decided on;  like should I start my own business, or should I go overseas for a year, or should I submit my ideas to my boss. It is about saying yes to the things we say no to because of fear. 


A few months ago, I watched a really brilliant TED talk by a woman called Brene Brown.  It was so wonderful for me to watch because she was speaking my language, I believe with all my heart that being vulnerable is needed to experience the full joys of being human and living a truly fulfilled and happy life.  This remarkable woman has made it her life study!  Please watch it, because I hope that it will inspire you to view yourself in a different way.

With much love
Rosemarie
xxx


Wednesday, 22 June 2016

ACT IN SPITE OF FEAR



I have overcome a lot in my life, nothing that has happened to me has made me shrink down or become defeated.  Sure I have had moments when I am low, but I have never stayed there.  Pushing through each challenge has made me stronger and each challenge has taught me something valuable about myself.  I can do it!  

Now that I know that without any doubt in my mind, I can confidently tell you this....


If I can do it, so can you! 


I am going to give you a challenge today, this is one of the tools I have used in my life and it has made me very strong and very happy.


Life will always throw you challenges, that is what life is about, but don't let them shrink you back!  Act in spite of the fear you are feeling.  Stand up to life and say yes! Know who you are and nothing can make you doubt yourself again.


I challenge you to get to know yourself and love who you find, and if you don't like what you find, then change it so that you do love it.  Make a list of 5 of your most beautiful qualities and put it next to your bed and add a new quality to that list everyday.  Be proud of who you are and stop shrinking away from your own brilliance.  It is always so easy to see great qualities in others, but we are taught we are vain or arrogant to acknowledge our own.  That is a lie, and I am challenging you do let go of the lie and acknowledge yourself.

By knowing who you are at your core, you will be more confident and grounded.  Take the reigns and love yourself! 




With much love
Rosemarie
xxx

Wednesday, 15 June 2016

HELLO WORLD!

"Do not bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors.  Try to be better than yourself"  William Faulkner 

I am a very unique soul.  Just like everyone else in this amazing world.  My deepest passions are personal growth and helping people.  I have been on a dedicated personal transformation path for more than 17 years and am still going strong.  Through my life experiences I have found my true purpose on this planet, and that is to share my experiences to help people to become unstuck in their personal pain and dilemmas and to help them find their place in this world and to be fulfilled and happy.  Since I have started listening to my hearts longing to do this I have more creativity and drive than ever before. Doors are flying open for me left right and center.  Everything in my life is falling into place at a speed of light. It is phenomenal! 

I want to share my gifts with the world and contribute to healing the people on this planet.  I want to help others to attain what I have attained.  


I have a number of tools in my toolbox. I am a process workshop presenter, I have written my own workshops based on my personal process which has made my life do a 360 turn around. I am a nutritional therapist, I am a massage therapist, I am an energy healer and I am an artist.


I am busy studying colour therapy and in the process of writing my first book based on the workshops which I do.


This blog will be about the work I do, and hopefully inspire everyone who reads it to be the best they can be.


With much love

Rosemarie
xxx